One of the big things today is online dating. There are more services than you can shake a stick at that will fix you up with your perfect mate. One of the biggest today is eHarmony.com. You’re bound to see TV commercials for this site all over the place. When a company based on the Internet advertises on TV, you know they mean business. But does online dating really work? There are those on both sides of the argument. We’re not going to take sides in this article but only present them. You can draw your own conclusions.

The premise of online dating is actually very simple. You go to the online dating service of your choice and fill out a form. This will give the service some general information about you. If you actually want them to fix you up with somebody then you have to pay them a fee, after which they will give you an extensive survey to fill out. This is where you basically tell them everything about yourself that you can think of. There are standard questions for most of these sites and then there is usually an area to put in a short narrative. The sites of higher quality, like eHarmony, leave no stone unturned. It’s like placing your DNA into a hopper and matching you up based on the most complex algorithms you can find. One would think that this is a fool proof method to find your ideal mate.

Those who are pro online dating claim that the better companies really do have this down to a science. They say that their programs will match you up with someone even better than you can do yourself. If you go to these sites, especially eHarmony, you will read hundreds of testimonials of people who have been successfully matched up with the person they ultimately ended up marrying. Everything looks like just one big Garden Of Eden. But is it?

Those who are opposed to online dating claim as the main problem with the whole concept something that is hard to argue with.

People lie.

Let’s face it. If you’re applying to an online dating service and you know that you have a very annoying habit of interrupting people when they speak and never let them get in the last word, you’re not going to let someone know this. And while this may be an extreme example, there are more common ones. For example, a common question is how attractive you think you are to others. How many people are going to put down very unattractive? How many people will put down anything negative about themselves for that matter? If you were able to read the profiles of all the people who apply to online dating services you’d think that everyone in this world was a fashion model of a movie star. Yes, people lie. So how valid are these questionnaires, no matter how detailed they are?

When it comes to online dating you have to take the whole industry with a grain of salt and realize that it isn’t some magic formula. You could very well end up with somebody who is the exact opposite of what you’re looking for.

Michael Russell
Your Independent guide to Dating

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Are you sick of meeting the same kinds of people in life? Try the online dating sites. Dating online is a way to meet a variety of different people who you might never meet in day to day life. With its ever increasing popularity, your chances of making your perfect match constantly grow better. With computer matching used at the online dating sites, you are able to find that very special someone just for you. You can find people that share your exact interests and hobbies who are looking for someone just like you before you ever even go on a date. Technology is truely great when it comes to LOVE.

If you are considering dating online, you must also consider the risk that is involved. Meeting someone in a chat room or through a dating site sounds simple, but you never can be sure how honest the other person may be. You should never give out personal information, such as your full name or address to strangers. If you choose to meet someone in person, it is best to go on a group date or meet somewhere public. There are bad people in this world we live in, so be cautious.

Some online dating sites are completely free. “Plenty of Fish” offers a simplified service to you, which includes searching by location or gender, and will never charge any fees. “Book of Matches” is another great site that makes the online dating experience free, fun, and easy. An equal variety of people are available on non-pay sites as with a site that can charge a fee just to post your profile. Only you can be the judge on which type of site to work with.

When you begin to pursue dating online, it is important that you follow some simple guidelines. Be positive and completely honest about yourself. If you expect someone to be honest with you, then the least you could do is represent yourself exactly as you are. Do not automatically assume that someone that shares your interests is the right person for you. Be clear about what you are looking for in a potential date and emphasize what you could provide to a relationship. This goes for both guys and gals. Honesty will always pay off in the end.

Keith Londrie II is a well known author. Please visit http://www.dating-information.info/ for more information on dating, online and offline.

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Your success with online dating all comes to how you say it. How you present yourself with you online profile ultimately determines how successful you will be in the online dating world.

One of the things many single people say in their online profile is - I like the beach.

Think of how many single people say they like hanging out at the beach. What makes you any different then the other jabillion people online saying they like to hang out at the beach.

To say you like going to the beach and get a little more attention, you may consider saying that you like hanging out on the beach and having a picnic. By adding, “having a picnic” you give the reader a much better picture of what you like about being on the beach.

To convey the exact same message of hanging out at the beach and really boost your message you may want to say - I like hanging out at the beach, watching the sun come up and drinking dark roast coffee.

This statements gives the reader two additional pieces of information besides the fact you like going to the beach. The reader also knows that you are probably a morning person because you like to watch the sun come up and the fact you like dark roasted coffee. This same message may cause a potential match to stop and read more about your profile. This may lead them to ask you a question about your favorite coffee.

You can deliver the exact same message but do it a number of different ways.

You can say - I like to travel. You can also say - I love going to golf tournaments on my vacation. You can also say - I want to meet other single golfers the next time I visit Pebble Beach on my golf vacation.

Just remember - it’s all in the way you say it.

Gary Kelly is co-creator of the online dating website for golfers, http://www.DateAGolfer.com and http://www.PuttingForPar.com, a golf website specializing in personalized ball markers

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